Coach Cole Zesiger

What's Your
Attachment Style?

16 questions. Honest answers. Real clarity.

Your attachment style is the invisible pattern driving every relationship decision you make — who you're drawn to, how you react when love feels threatened, and why breakups hit you as hard as they do.

There are four patterns: Anxious (chases connection, fears abandonment), Avoidant (pulls away, fears intimacy), Secure (comfortable with both closeness and space), and Disorganized (swings between desperately wanting love and pushing it away).

The anxious-avoidant trap is the most common pattern in painful relationships. Disorganized attachment is the most misunderstood. Understanding where you fall is step one to breaking out of it.

Answer honestly — not who you want to be, but who you've actually been in relationships.

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Anxious
Chases, fears
abandonment
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Avoidant
Pulls away, fears
intimacy
Secure
Grounded,
open to both
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Disorganized
Push/pull,
inner turmoil
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QUESTION 1

Analyzing Your Pattern

Reading between the lines…

Your Attachment Style Is

What This Means

How It Showed Up In Your Relationship

Your Path Forward

Ready to Break the Pattern?

Knowing your style is step one. The real work is rewiring it — and that's exactly what we do in coaching.

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